is it normal.. - RadPig94 - 26.09.2010
i just got back from a family members funeral, it's seems i was the only one to have not cried, is this even normal?
Re: is it normal.. - WhoDatNotSayin - 26.09.2010
Grief affects different people in different ways, RadPig. This variation is normal.
My condolences on your loss.
Andy
Re: is it normal.. - RadPig94 - 26.09.2010
WhoDatNotSayin Wrote:My condolences on your loss.
Andy
thanks
Re: is it normal.. -
KG64_Cnopicilin - 27.09.2010
Everyone has their own way to mourn.
Re: is it normal.. - Guest - 27.09.2010
As the others have stated, we all grieve in different ways. You may find that after a while (or even a short period of time) that you may suddenly feel a wave of grief. This would be perfectly normal. I remember when my Granddad died I couldn't cry at his funeral, but later on I felt really sad and (sometimes) angry. The important thing to do is to talk about it with your family. It will be like a weight off your chest. This will allow them to understand your grief, and so if you feel angry and lash out then they will understand why.
Sometimes it's good to channel your feelings, but try not to become self-absorbed. It can lead to all sorts of trouble; depression for one. The same for music. Listening to music can feel good, but certain never take lyrics in songs seriously. A good example is Eminem. He's an excellent lyricist, but a lot of what he says isn't true, or doesn't reflect his true feelings.
I hope this helps
Re: is it normal.. - Fireskull - 27.09.2010
Radpig,
I agree with philip.ed.
At 44 years old, I have been to many funerals, as you can imagine. Once I seemed to be the only one not crying at the time but went home and balled my eyes out in my room. Another time, I seemed to be the only one crying - go figure.
There have been quiet, solemn ceremonies and loud, mournful ones. I even attended one that was celebrating because the departed was believed to have gone to a better place, if you know what I mean. :wink:
In New Orleans, Louisiana, USA, they tend to mourn on the way to the cemetary and celebrate while leaving, even with a band playing.
See what I am saying?
Fireskull
Re: is it normal.. - RadPig94 - 27.09.2010
Fireskull Wrote:they tend to mourn on the way to the cemetary and celebrate while leaving, even with a band playing.
sounds like school :mrgreen:
Re: is it normal.. - Fireskull - 27.09.2010
RadPig94 Wrote:Fireskull Wrote:they tend to mourn on the way to the cemetary and celebrate while leaving, even with a band playing.
sounds like school :mrgreen:
:lol: